Your Own Definition of Success

“Success means something different for everyone.”

Have you heard this before? It’s a popular sentiment in the online business world. Everywhere you look, there are stories of people quitting their miserable day jobs and finding success with their made-from-scratch businesses.

True success seems so mysterious sometimes. But it doesn’t have to.

I echo the sentiment: Success IS different for everyone.

I used to think that success was simply making a lot of money at an important job so that I could afford to have nice things and go on trips on my two days a week off plus two weeks vacation each year.

Eventually, that dream became a little stagnant. Because I realized that I wasn’t actually happy spending the majority of my waking hours working in a job that I didn’t really like that much, spending my days with people that were not my family and close friends, just so I could have money to do the things and see the people that I never had time for.

So, my idea of success has evolved considerably over the last few years.

I still want to make a lot of money.

I still want to have nice things, although, I need much fewer things these days.

I still want to take amazing vacations and see my friends and family in my free time.

Most of all, I want to be in control of my time. My sweet, precious, dear-to-me time.

There is a scale to these desires that relates directly to the amount of work I am willing to put into the things I do to make money, and how I choose those things.

When you work for someone else, they’ve made an agreement with you to bring you on board for a certain number of hours, for a set amount of pay (in most cases). If their business fluctuates, you still get paid the same amount. The risk is pretty low for you in that situation.

But when you work for yourself, the amount of effort you put into your offerings is directly tied to your level of success. And your level of success starts to tip the scale in different directions on how much control you have over your time.

This is where resistance sets in for some people: giving up the steady income that you don't have to risk much to attain.

If you are not yet working for yourself full time, but are thinking about it, it can be hella daunting to consider going it alone, especially if you have been financially comfortable in a more corporate setting. I promise you this:

If you work hard and continue to ask questions about what you want your life to look like, you WILL find success.

You DO have control over your schedule.

You WILL see your income grow.

And speaking of growth, how much work do you actually want to do to grow? How much are you willing to pay someone else to help you do it? Figure out how many product or service units you need to sell at different price points in order to get to the salary you want (then work your ass off to hit those numbers, baby!). See how that fits into the salary you want to pay yourself to afford the life of your dreams. Track it.

How much of your time will it cost you to make that a reality?

You might find that the product or service you are offering doesn’t work with the numbers you just crunched, and you’d be happier doing something else that you can charge more for that takes less of your time.

Create real goals and write down the numbers required to get there. 

Visualize what you want your life to look like and start taking action in that direction.

You might change your mind about about what you want half-way through the process. That’s ok. Just be prepared to pivot and follow the right direction when it presents itself. Keep asking questions and digging deeper, over and over.

The most important aspects of success have more to do with intention, time, and desire, rather than money.

Don’t get me wrong, money is awesome and buys a lot of that freedom that I carry on about. But the money part is the easy part.

You know how to make money.

Even if you feel conflicted about it, or uncomfortable asking people to give it to you, trust me, money is all around you. Look around the space that you are sitting in right this moment and imagine if every single thing around you that cost money actually turned into a pile of money.

Unless you are in the middle of nowhere surrounded by untouched nature, you’d be swimming in money right now.

I say this to illustrate that there is plenty of it in this world to go around. Granted, some people have more of it than others. But I promise you, you deserve it and are capable of getting it just as much as anyone else. You just have to figure out how you will do it and how to make it work in your dream life scenario.

My last point on success is this: if you haven’t yet, start asking yourself lots of questions.

Question everything. Get to the root of what makes you burst with joy, and pursue more of that.

Figure out the steps to make it happen. The Universe works in mysterious ways, but it doesn’t bestow unexpected and amazing things on those who sit and wait.

Be diligent. Be precise. And take action.

The results will be astonishing.